I have long had troubles with the issue of forgiveness and up till this point, I am no closer to being perfect than when I started. I have not yet reached the point where I forgive easily but it’s a work in progress.
I still have trouble forgiving the way others expect I should. This is what I’ve gleaned along the way.
1. Don’t pretend to forgive.
2. Forgiveness doesn’t necessarily mean that you must be back to ‘old pals’ again.
3. Most times you forgive for your own emotional well-being, sometimes; it’s for the other person’s.
4. It’s necessary to forgive...like it’s natural for a glass filled with water to spill over.
5. Don’t hold grudges. Whether you decide to forgive that person or not, grudges are completely useless.
6. Don’t ‘forgive’ because you need something done. Refer to Rule One.
7. Clarify to yourself and the other person as soon as possible what the new arrangements are. It’s unfair to lead the other person on just to be humiliating or snide.
8. Forgiveness sometimes hurts.
9. Forgiveness sometimes hides. You think you’re ok and then you realise you’re still angry when you recount the incident.
10. Make it easy for somebody else to forgive you.
Amen to this sister!
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