To Deliver or Not To Deliver

So I read an advice column recently where the advisor replied the writer saying that she should definitely not terminate her pregnancy but that she should keep her child.

Now, I’m pro-choice. That’s my stance, my opinion and I’m sticking to it. But I was a bit perturbed by this advice columnist basically insisting that this woman make the same choice that the advisor would.

Pro-choice means that you have a right to choose whether to terminate your pregnancy or to carry to full term. You have a right to choose. I can understand pro-lifers, though. People who are pro-life believe that there is no choice to be made; that the woman definitely cannot or should not abort her child.

Now Reader, I can understand that, I believe that life is something to be taken very seriously- which is why I believe in choice. I’m a firm advocate that it shows disregard for life and miracle for an unprepared, neglectful woman to birth a helpless child just to abandon the child! And because somebody else believes that she should?  That seems unfair and judgemental. By no means am I saying that women or girls should get pregnant carelessly every six months and abort the pregnancy. That’s something entirely depravedly malicious.

We see women all the time who have a number of children or maybe just one and the mental and physical condition of this family is depressing. I believe that this woman had alternative options. Similarly, we see those women who have children and are unable to stand the sight of them for whatever reason. Women who use, abuse and even hate those innocents. That’s heart-rending to me, Reader, and can be avoided.

In my audacious opinion, girls or women who are not prepared, capable or harbour a dislike for children should avoid having them! It makes no sense to deliver because it’s the ‘right thing to do’ because those blameless children are then left to suffer. I feel that there are so many evil people on earth that we shouldn’t add any more to the numbers by raising permanently messed up children. And by messed up I mean carrying the damaging baggage of their neglectful parents. That’s a recipe for serial killers. (It is unnecessary to point out that all children do not turn out badly, that goes without saying.)

Don’t think me unfeeling, Reader, I believe that children deserve to be born but they also deserve to have their best chance.

In all honesty, some women do take advantage of the choice and abuse it. But the integrity of pro-choice supporters must be demonstrated by the character of the woman after she has made that hard decision. To me, if that woman undergoes the procedure and carries on her life like she has just squeezed an unsightly pimple having learned nothing from the experience, she should probably never be allowed to conceive again.

Many people will say that we should not kill and you’re entitled to your respectful opinion. I agree that we should not kill; I also think it is far worse to damn a soul to hell because of a parent’s uselessness. Being responsible for your own soul is hard enough without adding the impressionable soul of somebody else.

In conclusion, I don’t think that this advice columnist was wrong to present one option but I’m convinced that she should have presented the other options to this vulnerable girl. Believing strongly in your opinion doesn’t make yours more right than any other person’s. Thankfully, I’m not an advisor because I would be useless as I would only help those helpless people to think for themselves.

I feel I must mention that it is very normal for an unprepared woman to come out on the other side as an incredibly competent woman and mother. There are hardly any constants in life; every person is responsible for his or her own destiny. No amount of statistics can dictate what your life will turn out to be. That being said: woman, do not let any person’s opinion determine your existence. You are wiser than you think and you already possess everything you need to make your own decision.
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