Buying Masks

I wonder...are people ever just themselves? I’m sure the thought has crossed many minds since Creation, but in recent times, I find myself consciously and unconsciously trying to rid myself of pretences more and more.

While I have never been a fan of pretend, (unless for self-preservation) I continue to be influenced by my surroundings in ways which I consider unfavourable.

Marriage and Magicians

Does ­­­marriage change people? If yes, should it?

Hmmm the jury might be out on this one but permit me to organise my thoughts here. I’m one of those who imagine that I’ll be happily married one day. Although, I don’t dream and plan right now, I just figure it will happen eventually but if it can be proven that marriage changes people in a way I find ridiculous, I may reconsider. These are my burning questions.

Conned by a Con...woman?

We’ve all been there: boy meets girl; boy is amazed by girl; boy and girl have whirlwind romance; boy learns that girl isn’t perfect; boy flips out. It’s happened to us all. No? Well it’s happened to me and I’m pissed off about it!

To Be Or Not To Be...

 

Note: Rant ahead!

I feel obligated to share my thoughts on this issue although I never saw the need before today. I never saw the need because I figure that social media has been around long enough for people-nay, responsible adults to know how to properly use it. As it appears, I was wrong. I’ll be blunt and concise.

Juvenile Guzzler

Call it what you want but I’ve long had a problem with juvenile obesity. I think it’s unfair and gross negligence.

Let’s clarify that I’m not arguing against adult obesity on a whole-that’s an entirely different matter that I don’t intend to address in the future I can see.

We see it all the time: usually it starts with a cute chubby baby who mom just loves to feed even when he’s not hungry.

Do It Or Else...

Somebody I know recently presented an argument to me that was sort of a eureka moment for me. He was concerned with the unfairness of being forced to father a child that he didn’t want.

I can see eyebrows rising all over internet and I feel that as to do with how we were socialised. We were consciously or unconsciously conditioned to frown upon men who didn’t want to be fathers to their children. Now this is not a case for or against abortion but I think it’s worth discussing.

Why You Should Probably Dump Her

In my audacious opinion, too many good guys are fighting losing battles with not-so-good girls when they could be replacing them with much better ones.

I was heartbroken when I realised that I have been so wrapped in the millions of issues that women have, that I have been neglecting the five or six issues that guys have (we envy you!) Shame on me! I was so distraught that I couldn’t wait to make it right.

Have you ever observed a relationship and could count 40 reasons why that nice fellow should dump that useless girl? Have you realised that everybody could count the same reasons as you except the poor fellow? Haven’t we all seen those relationships every day of our lives and although it’s none of our business of course and we would never interfere…

Being Diplomatic is Such a Chore!

This is completely unplanned but I feel I should say that professionals in a work place should take advantage of their right to a comfortable working environment.

Sexual harassment and misconduct is a real and punishable thing. Some people might be concerned that they let it go on for so long that it’s no longer punishable but it is. In fact if at any point the behaviour of any person in your workplace makes you uncomfortable, you should never think twice about putting a stop to it.

Carpe Diem

I have learned never to say neverfor more than one reason. Life is way too unpredictable for me to be so rigid. New plan? Carpe Diem.*

I know some of you will jump at the opportunity to say, “Huh? I know some things I’ll never do...”

Now, now Reader, don’t have a fit. I’m only saying why I would never say it. A guy let on to me one time why he would never say never and I thought it made perfect sense. Before that I was like you—saying that I knew for sure a few things that I would never do. For the sake of discretion, I’ll not list any of the things to which I’m referring.

When I was younger and up until thirteen years ago I had my life all figured out. I knew what I was going to do and where exactly I would be in life by X age. I’ve been forced to revisit that so many times that I just decided to throw the script away. New plan: one day at a time.

What I Learned From a Hustler

In my audacious opinion, this financial society was not created for my success. Don’t be naïve, if you’re like me, it wasn’t created for yours either. I am under 40 and I still live at home, not because I haven’t been dreaming of moving since I was 19 but because I haven’t been able to get a leg up! If you’re anything like me, you are young, ambitious and bursting with big dreams for your life. If you’re anything like me, your life has yet to start and it’s almost maddening.

West Indian Daddyship

In my audacious opinion, West Indian fathers need an intervention. Obviously, reader, I don’t know all Caribbean fathers so before you go spouting off at the mouth, if I don’t know you, I cannot be referring to you, can I? I am writing about what I know. I know my father, quite well, in fact, I know him better than he realises. Maybe if he paid more attention to me personally, he would realise how similar we are. I can almost read him like a page. A lot of fathers seem to think that their children are just children, they are more observant than you think.. I have observed a few things about West Indian fathers; enough to compile this list:

To Deliver or Not To Deliver

So I read an advice column recently where the advisor replied the writer saying that she should definitely not terminate her pregnancy but that she should keep her child.

Now, I’m pro-choice. That’s my stance, my opinion and I’m sticking to it. But I was a bit perturbed by this advice columnist basically insisting that this woman make the same choice that the advisor would.

Planet Me

Shouldn't personal life be...personal? I've been thinking that social media has conditioned and is continually conditioning us to share our personal lives with everybody else.

Kill Dem An' Done

Someone recently asked my opinion on the death penalty issue and although it's a controversial and sensitive issue, I have no qualms about sharing my thoughts.

I Love Dominica But...

I love Dominica. I love her beaches, her rivers, her sulphur springs, her verdant shades of green, her culture, her people, her seasons, her water, her verve, her spice, her life! I love being a patriot for my country. I am too excited to describe Dominica to anybody who will listen. Irrespective of how fervently some persons may bash my country or compare her to everywhere else and make her seem inferior, no matter how unpatriotic some Dominicans can be; I love Dominica and I’m convinced that God kissed her gently with the lips that spoke her out of nothing.

Reader, I love Dominica but I don’t have to like every Bouyon song.

Hottie or Nottie

In my audacious opinion, women who do things only to be attractive to men have nothing to live for.

Don't Worry, Be Irate

I'm a Caribbean girl through and through. I love this country like life itself, I love this archipelago, and I love every country whose shore is washed by the warm blue Caribbean Sea. I love our people, rich in heritage and diverse in cultures, accents and colours but one must admit that something is terribly wrong.

Don't Hate, Congratulate!

In my audacious opinion, women tend to envy men's relationships from time to time. For good reason, men are less prone to The Hating Syndrome (THS) than women. 

Chances Are...

I've managed to compose a statement of irrefutable facts. This is what I’ve noticed:

Chances are that a staggering number of us will work our entire lives and probably never get to where we want to be.

Chances are that no matter how positive and upbeat we aim to be, there will be many times when something will appear and crush our spirits albeit temporarily.

Chances are that there will be a point in our lives when something will happen and will define our characters forever.

Chances are that point is seldom a fun experience.

Ben vs. Benjamin Franklin

I was talking to a friend the other day and as usually happens with women; we covered about eight topics in eight minutes. Within our eight minutes, we hit on whether we would get married for love or money if we were given the choice.

So the question was presented: if I am offered enough money to last two generations to marry someone that I don’t love and never would, would I accept?

29 and Under

There is …well… a somewhat noteworthy trend becoming a norm in our very presence with our encouragement. And seeing as people usually associate the word ‘disturbing’ with trends, I don’t want to use that cliché. I want you to use whatever adjective impresses you. The trend is that of much older men soliciting much younger girls strictly for sexual relationships.

Is Cheating Really That Bad?

In my audacious opinion, I daresay that sleeping with someone else is not the greatest relationship crime ever committed.